I can’t believe it’s been two months since my last blog update. The day we went apple picking was the day before I found out I was pregnant. I remember looking back at pictures and thinking that my boobs looked bigger and Steve agreed! Ha, men.
Anyway, here’s a more in-depth entry about what the heck has been going on for the past two months and this pregnancy! As you guys know, we had an early miscarriage during the beginning of August right after Steve’s dad passed. The week that Steve planned to go to Texas to help his mom go through some of his father’s items and figure out what to do with the house, I drove to MA with Caleb a few days earlier than planned. Since the pregnancy ended so early (I think I was only 4 1/2 weeks along), we decided not to wait and to try again right away.
Since I had been temping, my cycles were textbook–28 days and I always ovulated on day 14. Right after I returned home, I still hadn’t ovulated, but I did read that sometimes a miscarriage can change things. Steve had booked a B&B getaway at the Chesapeake Bay to kind of get away together while his mom watched Caleb for a weekend. Unfortunately, he started developing a rash on his face that just got progressively worse with the weekend. Later we figured out it was from gluten especially since he was doing so well on paleo and then just fell off the bandwagon with all the crap that had been going on.
Anyway, a week later, I finally ovulated and so from then on, it was just a waiting game. Steve didn’t want me to test early especially with the heartache we both endured from testing so early. I’m just so impatient so eight days later, I tested and got a super, duper faint pregnancy test. I was trying to decide if I should tell Steve or wait and see if the line would get darker as time progressed.
August was a crazy month. I went from pregnant, to not pregnant, back to being pregnant.
I decided to keep the test result to myself for the day and try and figure out a way to tell Steve. I saw on Pinterest that you could decorate mugs with Sharpies and bake them. So, I bought a huge soup mug from TJ Maxx and with a Sharpie, I wrote “You’re gonna need more coffee….for baby #2!”
I forgot why I was up, but it was to do some cooking (maybe for a potluck?), but Steve had gone to bed early so that’s when I started my project. I also decided to pee on a digital test to see if it would register yet and it did! So, my plan was to put the mug and pee stick by the Keurig since he always gets coffee in the morning and that’s how I would tell him. Well, at 1am, he woke up and decided to come down so I was scrambling to hide everything and get him back to bed…lol. I put everything back when I went upstairs for good, but Steve had trouble sleeping and ended up going downstairs AGAIN and seeing my present
Steve showing off his new mug
As the days passed, I peed on more sticks to see if the line would get darker. With the early miscarriage, the lines never got dark and after about four days, they were non-existent so it was reassuring to see the lines get progressively darker. I had 20 cheap Wondfos that I had gotten from Amazon so I didn’t feel bad about using 2 or 3 a day. After about two weeks, I stopped especially since the line was as dark as the control line.
Clearblue Easy with the conception indicator finally got FDA approval for the US so I bought a pack of two so I could watch the number go from 1-2 weeks to 2-3 weeks. Every little bit of reassurance helped!
test with indicator
I started taking my weekly pictures at week 4. Of course by then, there’s nothing but bloat so I figured I’d write a lil’ update to the baby as well so this has been my photo project for this pregnancy.
We told Caleb right away that he was going to be a big brother. I’m not exactly sure he knows what it means quite yet, but he knows that there’s a baby in my belly. He likes to lift my shirt and “knock knock” to talk to the baby. He also tells me that the baby is a girl and her name is “Sophie” and that he has a baby in his belly, too. He is a boy and his name is “Rice”…lol.
At about week 6, all day nausea hit with it being worse at night–no puking though. With Caleb, I didn’t have any of this so this was all new to me. I drank ginger tea and took b6 to help. I had no appetite and could only really stomach starchy foods so I ate a lot of bagels and chips. Sometimes chips would be my dinner. I also had zero energy. I had experienced fatigue with Caleb, but after an hour nap, I was good to go. With this pregnancy, I needed a 2-3 hour nap everyday (and still do at almost 13 weeks). I just feel sooooooo tired with this one.
Finally, the day of our first prenatal appointment came around and both Steve and I were a nervous wreck! But, when the doc said we were going to start things off with the ultrasound, I was happy because it would mean our weeks of waiting would be over and we would know if we had a viable pregnancy. As soon as the doc said, “everything looks good,” a HUGE relief came over us. We got to see and hear the heartbeat (156 bpm) and see our lil’ blob.
our baby blob!
As my week 8 update stated, according to my LMP, I was 8w3d, but I knew I ovulated late and the baby was measuring 7w5d. The doc still wants to stick with the due date based on my LMP so it is officially May 10, 2014, the day before Mother’s Day!
And at 8w, I started wearing maternity pants full time. Between the bloat and the bump, the rubberband trick and the belly band were not cutting it so I pulled out my old maternity pants and bought some clearanced ones from Target. Ahhh, sweet, sweet relief.
I rented a doppler at 9 1/2 weeks, but could not find the heartbeat. With Caleb, I found his at 8w5d so it made me a bit nervous. I tried not to think about the possibility of a missed miscarriage happening, but the thought lingered in the back of my mind each time I would try and not find anything.
A strange thing happened a few days later. Caleb and I were laying in bed together when he told me that the baby was gone. Gone? I asked where the baby went and he told me the baby was “working with Zeydie”. Zeydie is what he would call Steve’s dad. And Steve’s dad is not with us anymore. So, that statement really freaked me out especially when they say that little kids are really intuitive. Did I think my kid was a medium? No, but for him to say something like that out of the blue kind of caught me off guard. I told him the baby was in my belly and he replied with, “ohhh. I’m so silly.” I told Steve about what happened and he was saying that in a lot of the books that he’s read about the afterlife, that the spirits are often referred to as “working” so he was starting to worry.
THANKFULLY, a few days later, I finally found the heartbeat. This baby was on the right side of my belly whereas Caleb was always on my left. And it is stubborn! I can’t always find the heartbeat, but I have found it a few times. Steve was so happy to hear it and I recorded it so I could have a copy.
Around this time, the all day nausea started to subside which was AWESOME! We did a bit of traveling with a weekend trip to NYC to visit Steve’s brother, Jeff, and also a trip to Nashville to visit Steve’s cousin and attend a friend’s wedding. Let me tell you, sitting in a car for 12-14 hours straight is not comfortable, especially while pregnant!!
Two days before our scheduled NT scan, I got a call that Tricare was not going to cover the ultrasound. Out of pocket, it would have cost $3k soooooo, we decided to pass on it. I’m not sure why they covered it with Caleb–though technically we didn’t really get one because the stinker was measuring a week ahead and was too big to do the scan, but we still got a lot of pictures out of it. Ah well.
So, I went to my regularly scheduled 12 week appointment where the stubborn lil’ baby couldn’t be heard on the doppler so the doc did a quick ultrasound. Baby was moving all around and heart rate was 154 bpm. I didn’t get a picture, but I did snap a pic of the screen before leaving I had lost a few pounds during my first trimester and the doc noted that. She said as long as it didn’t continue, I should be ok. My appetite is slowly coming and I can stomach beef now so I think I’ll be making up for it later on.
- 12 week, 154 bpm
Pictures from the wedding of me in Nashville started surfacing on Facebook, particularly one of me looking pregnant so I told Steve that we had to take our announcement photo soon. I had plans to do it sooner, but with the fall foliage and wedding season, I’ve been SOOOO busy! So finally I told Steve that we had to do it one night after he came home from work before the sun set so I quickly set up my tripod and snapped a few photos. Caleb was very anxious because we were on the path to the playground so when we finished, Steve took Caleb to play for a few minutes while I edited and prepped the pic for the public.
I think that’s everything so far. It’s almost nap time–yipee! I really hope I get my second wind in second tri soon.